I have to say that one of the most common questions that I get when people find out for the first time that I am a mother of a child with Down syndrome is, "Did you know he had Down syndrome before he was born."  I am always upfront that we did know, but it didn't matter.  Is it a question that is asked as a barometer of our morals?  What difference does it make?  Then why do I feel compelled to then explain why we had an amnio to confirm the diagnosis?  What does it matter?  We were going to be parents for a second time after suffering a devastating miscarriage, Rory was finally going to be a big sister...  What did it matter when we found out?  Trust me, it doesn't make us better people or better parents because we knew our son had Down syndrome before he was born.  We loved him from the moment we found out he was coming, and as with everything that comes with being a parent, are you ever ready for anything?